Stop Being the Problem

As a man who has spent a lifetime doing inner work, I felt completely held, respected, and understood by Jess. Their ability to stay with what’s present and gently explore what lives underneath has opened the door to clarity and deeper understanding of both myself and in my relationship with my partner. They have helped me see myself honestly and hold my experience with gentleness, which has shifted not only my relationships with others, but my relationship with myself. I’m deeply grateful for our work together.

When I first met Jess I was quick to anger, judged others quickly and harshly, and found it difficult to tap into joy. I had limited compassion for others and blamed the external world for how unhappy I felt. Jess helped me develop self awareness around what was beneath the anger and provided incredible support in my healing process. Because of my work with them I am now a lighter, happier person. I am so grateful. 

Jess has been an amazing guide in helping me to navigate romantic relationships - shaping my behavioral patterns, figuring out what I want, making relationships additive to my life, getting what I really want out of relationships, and understanding myself a lot better in the process.  This journey has also been invaluable in other areas of my life including work, family and friends as I developed more emotional maturity and insight into myself and others.

Jess led me in developing a deeper, wider, warmer sense of self; in a way that all people who identify as male and non-binary can benefit from. I became more mature and more playful, moving through Jess’s approach, which helped me offer a balance of gentleness and bravery to myself. She dared me to be unapologetic, not in a way that is about arrogance or competition, but in valuing my heart and my head, as well as my physicality. I transformed insecurities into profound abilities, to support and nurture myself. Because of Jess, I can now truly and uniquely embody excitement and comfort within intimacy and relationships.


Perhaps the best thing about working with Jess is that they are like a big clear mirror that will reflect back everything and show you clearly what is going on. In my case, their deep listening and thoughtful reflection helped me cut through all the bullshit I put myself through. Their lived experience and meditation practice serve to open a space where you truly feel welcomed, safe and like opening up the hidden and most protected parts of yourself.

My paths crossed with Jess at a time when I was confronting a lot of hard truths about my past, struggling to process prior relationships and heartbreak around breakups, and seeking to rediscover my own sense of embodied experience, interpersonal trust, and stability. Working with Jess was invaluable. They were a treasured source of companionship, mirroring, modeling, and a sense of compassionate understanding. I felt like there was no trauma too large to bring to Jessica, and they are very gifted at helping me steer through a time that turned out to be very precious and transformative.